What are some popular BDSM toys?
Toys are a fun component of BDSM play. You can use them to enhance role playing, create new sensations, or enhance your sexual experience. The most enjoyable BDSM play often incorporates all of these purposes and more. Just remember, consent is essential before any type of BDSM scene.
Bondage
Bondage is often the first thing that comes to mind when someone thinks about bdsm. Many couples engage in light bondage without even realizing i's part of the broader bdsm lifestyle.
At the gentlest end of the bondage spectrum, you have wrist and ankle cuffs. These are great for beginners. Many are faux leather, so they provide restraint without being uncomfortable. If you want to go a little farther, you can choose a bed restraint kit. This allows you to attach the cuffs to the bed, so the sub can't move their hands or feet.
Rope is another popular bondage option. At it's simplest, you can tie your partner's hands and feet together or tie them to the bed frame. You can also create the hog tie position. Rope play does require some basic knowledge of knots and safety, because if the rope is too tight it can cut off circulation. This can cause injury.
Bondage tape is a versatile option. It's popular as part of role play, because tape is seen as something kidnappers use to bind their victims. Unlike Duct tape, bondage tape will only stick to itself. This creates the same look and feel as traditional tape, but it isn't painful to remove.
Bondage tape is one of the most versatile bdsm toys, and it is relatively inexpensive. You can use it to bind your sub to a chair, bed, or an object. It can alos be used as a blindfold for sensory deprivation, or an over the mouth gag.
If you prefer the look and feel of metal, a set, or two, of stainless steel handcuffs will do the trick. They are similar to wrist and ankle cuffs, but they will be quite uncomfortable if the sub fights against the restraint.
Spreader bars are another type of bondage toy. A spreader bar has a bar that goes between the legs, and ankle cuffs on each end. Once it's in place, the sub is unable to close their legs, giving the Dom full access.
Sadistic BDSM Toys
Just like bondage, sadism runs the gamut from light to extreme. Nipple clamps can be applied as a type of sensation play, creating delicious stimulation. They can also be tightened down to create pain. Some have chains, which can be used as part of predicament bondage or pulled on by the Dom to ramp up intensity.
Impact play is also one of the most well known aspects of bdsm play. A paddle can offer a light spanking or heavy impact, depending on how it is used. The stiffness and strength makes it ideal for use on fatty areas, known as green zones, of the body like thighs and buttocks. It should not be used on other areas of the body. It's a good toy for beginners. Just start slow and keep it in the green zone.
A slapper is similar, but thinner than a paddle. It has more of a stingy than thuddy feel. It can be used in yellow areas, like breasts and arms, as well as green areas.
Floggers are a more advanced toy. They require practice to use correctly, and pose more risks than other impact toys. However, the range of sensations they can produce makes them a very popular toy. They can be used sensually to tease or feel like a massage. They can also be extremely painful, or somewhere in between.
Gags
The most common type of gags are ball gags. It has a ball that goes into the sub's mouth, and a strap that fastens around the head to keep it in place. Like most bdsm toys, there is a mental aspect as well as physical. It provides another type of control for the Dom and a sense of vulnerability to the sub.
Ring gags are popular type of open mouth gag. This type of gag uses a ring instead of a ball, and leaves the sub's mouth open while still restricting speech. These can be used for the sensation of vulnerability, humiliation (they tend to cause a lot of drool), or as a way to have complete access to the sub's mouth. The Dom can then use the sub for oral pleasure.
Sex Toys
Butt plugs are one common type of bdsm sex toy. They provide anal penetration, which can range from pleasurable to extremely painful. They can be worn for sex or during daily activities. The anal area is extremely sensitive, and using an anal plug will constantly remind the sub who is in control.
This is one area where size matters. Small plugs are suitable for beginners. Medium plugs provide more sensation, and are suitable for those with some experience with this type of sex toy. Large toys can be used for pain play or to add stronger sensations. You should always use body safe materials and toys that are designed for anal play. Toys designed for the vagina are not always safe for anal play, because they can get lost inside. In some cases, they have to be retrieved by a medical professional.
Cock rings are a popular sex toy for all levels of kink. They are primarily used to help men maintain a harder erection for a longer period of time. It should squeeze the base of the shaft enough to keep blood flow in the penis, without being too tight.
Cock rings can come with vibration or specially designed nubs to provide clitoral stimulation. They can be used with fingers or dildos in addition to their intended function.
